Do these 5 Small Things and rise in Agape Love in Romantic Relationships
In our Life, there are Small Things that define Love but they are actually not that Small. It’s a matter of our perception.
Agape Love is the way God would Love us. we need to love anybody near us the same way. Small Things that define and make us experience Agape Love/True Love
Talks about love are endless. Whatever I or anyone write about love, one thing I completely believe is that love is inexpressible. It talks directly from the heart. Whatever happens, but when you are with your loved one, nothing else seems to be big enough. You feel calm and absolute peace.
No mistake is crushing enough. No distance is long enough to reduce love. No plains or mountains can destroy it.
And this remains true even if you try to CRUSH, REDUCE OR DESTROY LOVE.
Well said, indeed. But the question still needs to be answered more precisely as living with love in every moment is different from just talking about it.
Apart from respecting, your partner
When we focus on the following five small things companionship gradually transform into true love. [Here I focus on only five]
1) Focus on what your loved ones are actually trying to mean and not just on their words.
It is as small as it can be. Remember words are themselves superficial and diplomatic. There are no words and neither can ever be that can express what actually heart feels.
Besides, we all live in some bewilderment.
Tip: Don’t judge your loved ones just on the basis of words. At some time in your life you yourself might have used those words.
2) Don’t sacrifice just anything for your loved ones.
What makes you happy need not make your partner happy.
This does not mean you sacrifice your happiness.
I have seen people who sacrifice small things (as may seem to the other person) because their partner does not like it and they often say that it’s small enough to be sacrificed for the sake of love.
Sacrifice is good, but only if doesn’t make us unhappy inside. Remember in the short run u can be happy your partner can be happy but in the long run, that sacrifice of what seems small to you or your partner now affects your happiness and hence your partner’s.
Tip: Instead seek an adjustment. A little adjustment can always bring much more happiness in the future.
3) Seek positivity from within and then practice it.
Don’t just seek positivity from your partner.
Also when you start practicing it, talk about it.
Remember, positivity is not a particular state, it’s the way of living. If you’ll not bring it out in your actions and in your words, there will be a conflict between your mind, heart and what you actually do which will again make you unhappy.
If you are unhappy then you cannot practice compassion.
Practicing positivity is not that difficult. Neither is too hype. It’s normal. [Read a separate article].
Tip: Smile and Smile as much as you can with those nearby. It passes on a message to others that you are being positive. It becomes easier to practice it then.
Remember everyone is seeking positivity, some internally while others externally.
4) Happiness in material things is short-lived. Though important, it can easily be forgotten.
Giving gifts to your loved one, going out for dinner, shopping, surprises, is good, but a verbal or a physical abuse, even for a single time can easily ruin all these efforts.
Some women often complain that they do household chores, that they even try to go out with their husbands, try to look as pretty as the can and try to make their husband happy but still whenever an argument breaks out on a very petty/small topic, it gradually converts into verbal abuse.
Men sometimes complain that they work hard to fulfill the needs of their wife/girlfriend/family but still, the latter are unhappy and don’t behave as expected.
It usually happens when one partner either tries to ignore the positive efforts of the other partner or constantly searching love and happiness in materialistic things.
Tip: happiness is within, try to control your mind.
5) Don’t try to control Love.
Love prospers where it wants. You cannot force it. You cannot tame it. Neither can you increase or decrease it at will.
According to me, these are the small, many necessary things required for love and affection to stay together and prosper.
Tip: Stop Chasing Love instead focus more on giving, you’ll get it back too.
It’s not love, when you don’t respect or you don’t get it back from your partner.
It’s not love, when you search love in just materialistic things.
It’s not love, when you verbally or physically abuse.
It’s not love, when you fight for what you don’t get from your partner.
I surely agree a few sweet fights, a little control, little materialism, a little sacrifice will definitely help.